Out-of-the-herd

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It is quite common to see scenes in Bangalore that make you look away, for the ethical sense and sensitivity that you have in you. I have no count of the number of times I have had to look away at the sight of some explicitly expressive love scenes - Malls, Parks, Movie Theatres, Train Stations are quotable. While it is a matter of totally personal opinion and freedom of life to exercise, I still hate the idea of having to look away, just because people dont mind their limits in public.


With that prologue in my mind, I saw two people who made me smile and I can believe that some people are truly 'Out-of-the-herd'.


Early this week, in a Volvo bus, I spotted a guy and girl listening to music from one mobile phone. The girl had the left ear phone plugged and the guy, the right. They seemed to be enjoying the music with an occassional smile and a nod once in a while. After about twenty minutes, she took off her ear phone and plugged it into his ear, wore her scarf, nodded a bye ( mostly a smile) and walked over to the door. Both of us had to get down at the same bus stop.


In all the forty minute travel, no words were exchanged. I liked the thought that these people were friends with music as the common thread in their friendship. But friends can't stop talking right? They can, but then I saw this nice pleasant journey the next day and the day after.I noticed that after she got off, she smiled from the pavement and he returned the smile - neither of them had anything to say all the three days for the forty long minutes. There was a comfortable silence.


Somewhere, deep down I was sure, that this was more than friendship. [ If you say, I am imagining, so be it...but that is not the point, so let's leave it at that]. I cannot term their relationship, but I must say, I didnt have to look away and it surely was very gentle and a comfortable feeling, if you know, what it means to travel or walk on Bangalore roads with a conservative mind set [Less of the 'I don't care attitude'].


What ever be the term for the relationship, it was by far the best portrayal , I have ever spotted in Bangalore.


Well, I am not against going public with your love affair, but I do believe there is a certain sense and sensitivity you should exercise anytime and anywhere outside your own space. All is not always fair in love and war - People call this a conservative mind set, but surely has proven records of keeping relationships stronger and going ahead.


Disclaimer ( I read about it here and thought this post warrants one )
I do not know the concerned people and hence the relationship. My blog usually never discusses any such delicate threads because, I believe words can easily be misinterpreted and can end up hurting some of my readers. This one, I wrote because, I think, it is rare to see such a sight in Bangalore, as far as my experience goes.

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Sowmya Gopal said…
My first experience of seeing a live kiss was when I was 21 and thanks to 2 german teenagers who were practically mauling each other in the train, sitting exactly opposite to me ! Yeah, I have seen 007 movies and Raja hindustani but seeing it live at a 1 feet distance is so much different than seeing it on the big screen.

I have seen a husband hugging his wife at the airport giving her a peck on the cheek since he missed her so much - that is love, even if you happen to catch it, it makes you smile. But what those teenagers were doing amounts to lust and this makes one squirm!

I love the part about the comfortable silence....you really cannot have that with everyone.

I got this forward a long time ago and I totally love it. Here is an excerpt....

When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.'

Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'
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