Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Newton's law of reaction!!!

On a chirpy summer morning, in the streets of a serene South-Indian village, an old man sat outside his house on the sit-out also called as 'Thinnai' or 'Veranda' locally. Not once his gaze  averted from the road that seemed to have no traffic at all except the cycle bearing milk cans and vegetable baskets.

After almost thirty minutes that seemed like eternity to the city-bred onlooker, a young lad crossed the old man's house with a 'Namaste'. The old man asked the boy, "No newspaper today?" and the boy said "No Thaatha". Thaatha is the tamil equivalent of grandpa. He rushed out of sight soon after and the old man quietly walked back inside the house.

In his world and age, the newspaper apparently is the only source of entertainment, world knowledge or a window to the outside world - whatever else you may want to term it as!! And there was no paper is definitely a cause of concern. The old man never had a question. He simply accepted the fact, concealed the disappointment if any, and moved on with the day!!

A good lesson from this simple and seemingly common observation is that too much of questioning causes stress. If we cannot do much about something, its best to leave it at that!!!

That it didn't happen is a fact and that we have to take it at the moment is also a fact.

Often, the fight and yell and stress and distress is on the things that happened and those we could not control and mostly the reaction to things that makes matters worse!!!

Every Action has an equal and opposite Reaction is a great find!!!!

Its best to save the reaction for a minute or two later as the gap will ensure that there is some rationale in the way we react and just may be we will start responding to the situation than react and make life terrible for us and the others!!!

The old man responded with an acceptance in contrast to the onlooker's expectation of at least a question on why the paper was not delivered that day?

Thursday, September 08, 2016

Shrimath Yoga - Nelmangala - Bangalore

Ours is a very conservative family where the concept of get-together meant family functions, weddings and other gatherings where relatives met. One of our cousins just expressed that its been a very long time since we all met and another cousin of ours offered to host the gathering in his place. So, that's for the prologue,very much a synopsis of the Whatsapp discussion that happened few months ago.

One August Sunday Morning, a group of 25 of us, from different locations in Bangalore, managed to get to Nelmangala which was well away from the city.

What was waiting for us was a real wonder!! A mini yoga school - Shrimath Yoga run efficiently by Mrs. and Mr.Krishna Prakash.

Here are a few pictures of the place where we spent the whole day.


Nature teaches us many things that words in books cannot. So many trees and a beautiful landscape in a non-commercial set up, maintained and managed by two young people who chose to devote their time and effort to Yoga, is not something that's easy to explain or imagine. The place remains unpolluted as of now. God Bless!! There are villagers who help with gardening and cooking.

I figured out that we all must make time to find where our real interest lies ( Calling) and work towards it to be happy. Materialistic needs are never-ending and deviate mind from happiness. Spirituality can be practiced in many ways, but we hardly devote any time to it regularly. We are all aware of the power of spirituality but have not bothered to work on it as regularly as we would on work or fun.

After spending a whole day close to nature, which has never happened in a long time, on my way back I wondered what it will be like to enroll for a Yoga course in this place! The guests spend a good few days so close to nature learning yoga,having home-cooked balanced meal, and get to really refresh  their minds and reshuffle their life's priorities a bit.

I just clicked a few pictures to post here, simply because I felt completely awed at the sight of the greenery and the joyful serenity of the place!!! You may want to get in touch with Shrimath Yoga too, if you are looking to learn Yoga. Please google "Shrimath Yoga" for more information.

Monday, August 29, 2016

The Middle Class Syndrome!!

On a casual Whatsapp conversation thread I received a message with a picture of a man taking both his children to school on a bicycle. It was a rainy morning. He had covered his head with a plastic cover to shield only his head from getting drenched. Both the kids were covered completely with a huge plastic cover.

Not because I had nothing better to do, but it was a really stirring picture!!! There was no rain coat, no umbrella. Thoughts went rattling off in my head as usual.

May be they didn't expect the rain and the plastic cover idea was  just the best idea at that moment.
May be they didn't have the money to afford a rain coat for three.
May be they forgot the rain coat at home.
May be they are used to umbrellas and it was not practical to hold an umbrella this day especially with the many school things that they were carrying..
On a parallel track, my mind went on to these questions too :

What if the man skids off his cycle given that it was raining heavily that morning?
What if one of the children fell off the cycle as there was very less space for two children to sit in the carrier?
What if the man loses his balance with two huge back packs plus two not so little children plus the cycle weight itself?
Why, he could have just decided to write a leave application stating the heavy rain as reason and kept the children indoors?!
What if the children fall sick?

At this last question, I stopped -

For a rich man, home schooling is possible - Car drive to school is possible - Rain coat and an umbrella is possible - Not a drop of water on the children and no risk of a soiled uniform - A simple email to the school asking for leave is also possible with no loss to marks in the exam or no questions asked later. Rich doesn't worry about rains too much!! As much as they don't worry about tomorrow!!

For a poor man, none of the above is possible, so there are not many options. So the poor man does all he can and sends the child to school. He believes in the unknown power to shield his life. Its either a hit or a miss in everything, especially on a rainy day. Either he gets wet or pats dry. Poor man lives for the day. His dictionary does not have a tomorrow to worry about!!

Then comes the middle class :

Some identities :

I don't have enough money. ( What will you do if you suddenly inherit hundred thousand crores from a will that you had no idea of till date??!!! Would you be able to spend it right?)

I need a job security.( What if you stop breathing at work while your job is super secure?)

I don't know why these things happen to me. (What do you think you can do or could have done if you knew that you were going to be thrown out of the train at the next station?)

I don't know why wrong things happen to me at the right times in life? ( Do you prefer right things to happen at the wrong time, like finding a lost bank card after you cancelled the card.?)

I prefer to be careful especially on a rainy morning like this with two small children travelling by cycle is a strict no - no!! ( Just how careful can you be about the oncoming drunken motorcycle guy or a bus driver on a reckless drive??)

So there goes : For the middle class - the class of people that are always thinking they don't have enough;are always working hard to make more to have a secure tomorrow forgetting the simple joys of today; are scared to take calculated risks of today that give life more thrill than anything -  small things like rainy morning causes more worry.  Their life gets spent in working up the ladder and never really being able to enjoy their earning in most household.

If you give a newspaper to a rich man, he hands it over to his secretary who reads out only the headlines to him. If you give it to a poor man, he gives it back to you probably because he cant read or doesn't have the time to spend in nano sized fonts. You know you are facing a middle class man if you hear remarks like " What did the PM do so far? He claims so much or How poorly the Indian railways operate.. You should see in Europe or You should see in Arctic!!! And this man has only read about Europe and probably doesn't even know where Arctic is in the Globe!!! And that's middle class also called as complaint box!!!!

I corrected my mind that day a little and ever since been trying to practise this : Its just okay. Too many questions, too many doubts only take too much  disk space in the mind. Half of what we worry about in life never happens and we should stop to think when did we last get drenched in rain than think about protecting from the rain itself!!We must simply get down to earth enough to understand that We are just human beings and are limited to that level of powers!!

Friday, July 29, 2016

Five Hundred!!!!!

Ten years into blogging, it struck me that I must dedicate the five hundredth post to all of you readers and the little wisdom that has dawned on me ( or so I want to believe!!!).

If you have been a regular reader of my blog, you would know by now that my thoughts have improved and my words sound less loud. It may be that I am getting older and wiser, or older and stronger, or older and quiet.

Whatever it is, it makes me feel thankful

- For all the knots it has helped remove in my head;
- For all the connections it has helped me make;
- For all the experiences it has helped me register;

I intended to close this blog and work on a new one, but I guess I will continue to keep this site on for it has helped me big time in my highs and lows over the last ten years.

I have not had too much time and mind to blog for sometime now and I am working hard to improve on my time management skills. I will share what I learn from my experience for sure and will continue writing.

Thanks to one and all of you readers for keeping my cheer on!!!

THANKS A BUNCH and KEEP WATCHING this page once in a while for some interesting slices of life's tour.

Sunday, May 01, 2016

Twelve Angry Men

All thanks to my friend who suggested  very old English movie called 12 Angry Men. The movie is dated 1957.

It is a short movie about twelve people talking about a case inside a small room around a discussion table. Liked it for many reasons, the primary one being I have not watched too many English movies over the years plus Never seen a very dialog-packed movie in a very long time.

You can find it online, so I am not talking further about the movie really. Here is what it taught me:

  1. Think different. 
  2. Just believe goodness always.
  3. Question the assertively negative sentences u hear. 
  4. Every human being is definitely what he is based on a hidden something deep within him. Never hate.
  5. Be nice in any argument.
  6. Observe emotions. They are hidden all the time.They rule a human being at any point in time.
  7. Two people can never have the same opinion unless they take time to reason out and be open to the subject. Always forget whom you are talking to and focus just on the point at the discussion table if your meaning is to solve the problem than win your side of the argument.
  8. You may be wrong.Its good to be assertive but not stern.
That's what I gathered immediately after the movie. A second watch may be required to really gather more lessons. Surely a good watch.