About Dewdrop

I like to write. Talking and Writing are my expressions.I jot down my thoughts, observations,and opinions in this blog.Appreciate your valuable viewpoints on the posts.

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Suddenly alone almost always

Sounding serious? Actually its about this person, I have been observing from my balcony for a month now. Its been a month in this new house and we have a road facing balcony where my children spend most of their time in the mornings and evenings.

The security guard and his family lives on the ground floor of every apartment in our locality. This person, a security's wife had a close friend Manisha, a security guarder's wife too. They had their own job routines to do and when they are free, they never spent a minute alone. From my balcony I could see that they were very good friends. I used to envy their friendship so much.

One fine morning, Manisha's family decided to move to their home town. Since then I used to see that her friend spending all afternoons alone. It is almost like she is waiting for Manisha and her family to get back. She never mingles with anyone else and is almost lost in a distant memory all the time.

It is really hard to sit stoned in a place for as long as four hours according to me. She looks and feels alone. Her husband spends the free time he has with her talking like her friend would do, but when he is not around, this lady seems lost in thoughts.

Word has it that she and Manisha have been great friends and it is difficult for her to take the separation. Friendship is amazing, more so in situations when there is less money or feasibility for sms,calls and emails. This lady is waiting for her friend. And I have information that Manisha is not coming back to Bangalore. I really hope her friend doesn't know this.

Many times I have missed my friends quite a lot but then coming to think of it now, the Internet has been a savior. The hundred and odd friends on the facebook pages make sure we don't get to miss friends.. and then there is google, whatsapp and many many more..

But wait.. friendship is really deeper than all these... right??

Friends are god sends... they are there for u at the right time and the right place. We have many friends who have been there at least once when we needed them. We may not realize, but that is what friends are.. Even if it is for a hello to lift a low mood on a rainy morning, friends have been there.. If we have not realized, its time we do.

Wednesday, April 01, 2015

Simple math work

I am just settling down in Bangalore. Among the many processes that a relocation and settling in involves, the most important thing I felt was setting up a bank account. With the welcome kit came half a dozen PIN mailers. I am super scared about these passwords in life, especially the cash related ones.

I just tossed the kit inside my bag after one glance at all of the mailer covers in it. There were hundreds of things to think about.

When my husband did a withdrawal for the first time to check the account initiation, he mentioned the password to me. Immediately I did a minor math with the digits and that is all. Never had a chance to think about it again.

Three weeks later, I am at a hospital counter for paying a bill. The amount was heavier than what I had with me. I took out the card and just then I realized that I have not got the password with me and I am going to be using the card for the first time. Madness, but I still counted on the formula that I had worked out earlier when I heard the password.

It was correct to my relief and I thanked my stars. It is just not nice to say you forgot your password and so you cant pay a bill!!! Thanks to some small practices from childhood.. I usually work out a formula in my mind to remember long number strings.. and it came to my rescue this time and at a very important moment to save my face!!! Hail Mathematics.

Monday, November 24, 2014

Zero Intellect??

Most email users today know about unsolicited emails. Deleting emails that don't intend any sense to me has become a practice for me these days. There is always one of these emails to delete:

  • Some insurance company selling policies that talk about the cash benefits.
  • Some pregnancy related website telling me what to do when my baby cries too much.
  • Some school website talking about entrance exam coaching and admission tests.
  • Some property website talking about the latest to-be-launched apartment project that I can buy for just 99 lakhs only.. Note that there is a just and a only in the line.
  • Some philosophical web site talking about how life is to live easy and for that I have to think like I don't exist, talk like a saint and walk the path of the Good God.
  • Some shopping site talking about many things that I may never want in my lifetime.

and the like..

Today, I came across a new kind of email which I am hoping that one of you would support. Yes, I am practicing less criticism and more 'trying to understand' in my  life. 

Just how do you think I must react if some email states that my intellectual level is 0%??

I clicked the email and saw that my intellectual level is 0% and some Mr. X has lived so many days and how he must react to any situation in any given day.. I tried looking for some astro-related word in the email but there was none.. I am super surprised to note that people actually have the time to send out unsolicited emails that talk nothing but nonsense to the unintended recipient... And it is definitely annoying to see that someone calls someone zero intellectual and that email falls into my box.. 

Am I holding a junk email box?? Will people consider that time is valuable??

For those who are asking me to mark these emails spam, please note that the more you mark something spam, the many more emails you start receiving, though from different ids.

Wednesday, November 05, 2014

Pessimism at a glance

If we have to always be optimistic, then why does the opposite exist?

When I read some ten lines in a temple that spoke about being optimistic, I naturally liked it. For those who know me, this is no big news. I am known to be positive most of the time, but then today, you may not believe, I thought a little different.

Why does everyone talk about Positive so much? Why does the opposite of it never welcome??

We all know that opposites are unavoidable.

If there is a high, there has to be a low.
If there is a fast, there has to be a slow.
If there is a possible, there has to be an impossible.
If there is a 'can', there has to be a can't.
If there is a far, there has to be a near.
If there is a love, there has to be a hate.
If there is a crest, there has to be a trough.
If there is a success, there has to be a failure.
If there is a positive, there has to be a negative.
If there is a good, there has to be a 'Bad'.

We all know that what we don't want to happen to us, doesn't do anything good to our health or mind, so we like to think positive. This is true and that is how it has to be. But today I discovered although a little late that It is just okay to be pessimistic at times.. All 'What if' questions are examples of pessimism, but think again, if you didn't think about it, would you do these in life?

- Carry extra cash when you travel
- Plant a fire extinguisher in your new building
- Have a life jacket in your boat
- Take an insurance policy
- Take a vaccine for some XYZ disease

A little pessimism or negativity is good, because without negativity, many things in life wouldn't have been invented or be used; Many lifestyle changes wouldn't have taken place. If anything that you don't want happens, lets try to look at what we can learn from it and be happy that we have crossed that hurdle and not brood about it ever.

You cannot rewrite the hidden rule of life. When there is a positive, there must be a negative. Some negatives are 'alerts', some are 'cautions' and some are 'dangers'. Which is why you pray: God Bless you and me :-)

Friday, October 31, 2014

Diwali evening - Are you rich?

Last week, after many years, I stepped out to buy crackers - some sparklers and sprinklers for my daughter. It was her first Diwali in India.She has not seen or heard so many noises and so much of light on the roads until then. So after two days of preparation, she finally agreed to light sparklers herself. That's how I stepped on to the road, full of joy for it is different buying things for yourself and very different when you buy for others and more so, when it is for your child.

At the shop, there were five people in different age groups, all buying crackers per their budget. I asked for five packets of sparklers, hoping for ten pieces in each pack. I couldn't imagine my daughter spending more time on sparklers. The shopkeeper gave me a look that almost said " Why are you wasting my time on a Diwali day?". I immediately added " It is for my two year old daughter". Then he smiled and asked me what else I wanted. I also picked up a pack of Flower pots and long sparklers. When he billed my purchase which was exactly seven packets, I could not believe the maths. I asked to recalculate myself and paid him a few hundreds.

When walking back, I saw many families where children wanted to burst crackers and wanted to buy sparklers but everything was just way above any one's budget. Immediately my thoughts traveled back to my childhood when my sister and I had enough to enjoy and there came a time when we didn't want to burst crackers at all. We used to give ours to others who didn't have any. I don't recall thanking God back then, but this day I did.

The short road seemed longer, or did my thoughts travel too far? I was brought back to the road by a little boy with three of his friends, all collecting money for their Diwali purchase. I knew what I was going to give them would not make a huge difference, but I still gave each of them some money. I believe that there would be many others who will have the heart to give some cash to these kids, so they can finally burst crackers that day.

The importance of bursting crackers or spending too lavishly on crackers, whether they are worth or not, is all a different tangent in a child's mind. A child is a child.. whether mine or yours or anyone Else's. Rich or Poor, all that a child needs is the same until the first few years in life...Fun, Food,Love, Attention.. are few pointers I can quickly name. All children have the same mind, same kind of wishes and it is pathetic to see that some children get to enjoy everything in life and some others don't. The fate/luck/karma is sometimes very strict!!!! Sad.