Sunday, December 31, 2017

Happy New Year 2018!

Too many things over the last one year! It feels nice to look back a bit to realize how much grateful I should be for all the good things in my life over the last one year.

And even more grateful for all the support from all the lovely people at various stages, moments, situations in my life.

2017 takes a page in my diary for so many reasons...
  • I figured out that I must work!!
  • I learned all over again, what it is like to face rejects in the job market!
  • I learned to believe in my prayers better when some of them got answered!
  • I knew that the saying  " Ask and you shall receive " is often true. I had to ask for every single thing I wanted!

It is also the year when I ...
  • took the first step out of my house after my children were born...
  • first was away from kids and cried more than them when I had to send them off to the daycare at school...
  • come back every day anxious to see my children's facial expressions and read their minds... They can't yet talk about their day in as much detail as I would love to hear out...
  • knew that I am a still a good writer at work...

It has been a year of...
  • finding pillar strengths in friends like never before...
  • realizing wisdom albeit very little on the emotional path...
  • meeting a lot of new people with different interesting personalities and liking them too...
  • meeting old friends in the newer phase of their lives...
  • connecting with some yesteryears folks over the phone...
With Wedding fun, Newborn joy, Standup-comedies, School meetings, Family functions, Charity times, Anticipations, Expectations, Disappointments ( Well, they usually come together!), Shocks and Surprises, Birthdays, Encouragements given and taken, Supports given and taken, Prayers given and taken, 

And with the last bit of the year, that is today, ending with meeting an old college friend's family in a rather 'out-of-the-ordinary' setup with pretty much the same feel as the olden times (as it was 18 years ago!)

And with the godsend support, I got from many people through the year in my community and family and friends and school and office... at the most needed times...

As I come to the end of this year's rather noteworthy joyride,
All I have to say is a wholehearted THANK YOU to the Universe and its bounty which includes people.

Dewdrop wishes you a very happy 2018 with the following prayer :




Monday, December 25, 2017

Love - Beautiful realization

A recent English movie had stirred up my head about the concept of love...

Not that I am the first person questioning this big word LOVE, but it still is okay to rant about it...

What is love really??

Love as I think,  is everywhere, every relationship we share is based on Love.

Dad-Mom, Brother-Sister, Men and women friends, Spouse, Relatives, Neighbours, Teachers, Colleagues, Acquaintances, God - All of them get into one of the circles of love around us. It is more like a concentric circle where the self, sits in the center and is surrounded by circles of people and their love energy.

To everyone in the circles, based on the protocol of the relationship we give and take love in various forms/extent.

That goes to say that Love between a pet and you is not same as the love between you and your son. However, the joy that the love causes only varies by degrees. Joy there is. :) Love there is!!!

What I am not saying is, of course, the pain, the hurt, the disappointments and the fears.. they all are same for Love in various circles...Whichever circle you refer to, the relationship is definitely making/breaking a mark in your life.

What matters finally being able to smile that you were capable of loving someone in some capacity - a friend, a neighbor, an acquaintance, a spouse, a son, a daughter, a colleague, a stranger. That you are given a chance to express love and care is in itself a blessing... :-)

Beautiful realization and I thought I must talk about it. !!!
By the way, we are not talking about expecting anything in return!!! We cant be the other person in the equation, who thinks like we do!. The often said words " I Love You" mean just that... So we are MINDing our own business when it comes to LOVE.  

The movie: The Fault in our stars. The movie has nothing to do with what I just wrote, but in my deepest conscience, I felt that Love is all-pervading and it took me so many years and this movie, to get it right!!!

Why above the knee??

Recently I joined work after a long break of seven years. Which means, I am a fresher to the current setup in the IT offices. Yes or no?? Yes, I think so.

With my conservative looks and modern thoughts ( that's what I believe, God knows if everyone thinks the same way too) I can easily pass off as a middle-aged woman ( lady?!) who can accept nonsense better than I could ten years ago. People who have met me ten years ago should meet me now, to check this statement of mine!

A cold and slow morning in Bangalore... I was wrapped in Sweater and scarf and battling a severe cold with a steaming hot cup of green tea ( !!!, I know.. I don't believe this too) and struggling to write one line which was definitely luring. After the tenth edit of the line, I kind of gave up and stood up for a break which is usually turning my eyes off the screen to change the line of sight for a few minutes.. so I get a different angle practically and it may sometimes work well for the sentence in the making!!

And there she was... A tattooed leg, high-heeled Sandals, Wheatish skin painted fair, A plain White sleeveless Frock which was flowing from the shoulders to her knees, and I must thank God for the white liner inside, and hair that never could behave like most other hair-dos in trend today...

This was an unexpected angle, especially when many pairs of eyes were visibly disturbed with this attire of this lady on the floor.

I went back to work and decided to mind my own business!!.

Next day... the same leg caught my eye.. which means I had to look up to see the color of the dress today... It was a navy blue, quite ravishing a design it was that cut to the figure right and can just knock out anyone on the floor. If I were a man, I would have definitely got caught for an inappropriate behavior on the floor that day!

I let it pass with no comment... Her legs, her interests, her choice!!! Why should I even be disturbed other than the fact that she is bold!!?? I didn't react at all.

Day three: I was on a phone call and this tattooed leg stopped me mid-sentence!!!
  • I mean, what is the problem with some women really?? 
  • Why can't they understand that they should try to get dresses that don't disturb the work atmosphere?? 
  • Why are we so lenient with the dress code in some offices??
  • Why can't we cover ourselves properly and come to work?? 
  • What's the problem with dresses that flow up to or just below the knees?? Why above??Kneecaps are not attractive anyway!
If we are copying the west, we must know that they don't dress inappropriately to work!!! They have a dress code for work, meetings, formal lunches and dinners and the social gatherings... 

It is a loud why!!!! There are many others, but none as strikingly unruly as this one!!

As most unanswered questions in this world, the dress sense to work, especially this lovely lady's, was occupying a lot of disk space on my head... So posted it here...

Monday, December 11, 2017

Edhu? or What?

ஆசை எளியது.
அடக்கம் வலியது.
வறுமை கொடியது.
உண்மை கசப்பது.
குடும்பம் கூடுவது.
கோபம் சிறியது.
ஒற்றுமை பெரியது.
நட்பு நிகரற்றது.
பாசம் பிணைப்பது.
நேசம் நல்லது.
காதல் இனிப்பது.
அன்பு தூயது.
சொந்தம் சிறந்தது.
கொடை உயர்ந்தது.
ஆத்மன் நிலைப்பது.
நம்பிக்கை உகந்தது.
நேற்று முடிந்தது.
இன்று உள்ளது.
நாளை நம்புவது.

அவ்வை பாட்டி சொன்ன முதல் மூன்று வரிகளை ஒட்டி யோசித்தவை.

நன்றி : தமிழ் மொழி / அவ்வையார் / என் தமிழ் ஆசிரியர்கள்/ என் பாட்டி ராஜம்மாள் அவர்கள்.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

Intent , Action and Outcome

My five-year-old daughter taught me a very interesting lesson in life, the one that I always knew but forget to recall often!

It was a very early start for us this morning. I was in the kitchen making her breakfast while she was in slightly an exploratory mood, or so it seemed. Unusual for mornings, she was intensely examining some toy car, drawing something that only she understood and basically did not have time to waste.

Since there was no noise at all from the living room, I came out of the kitchen to see the door was open. I asked her if she knew why the door was open or who opened it so early in the morning, given that it was still dawn.

She simply said, "I don't know amma. I did not open it either. I just turned this knob."

The answer came as a beautiful thought: Intention is different from Action and definitely different from the Outcomes.

She wanted to explore the doorknob - Intention
She turned the knob to see how it is working -Action
The door opened. - Outcome

I cannot blame my child because her statement was very clearly honest.

It's true that sometimes what is intended and what results from an action is very different and causes a lot of misunderstanding in practically all places and walks of life.

Not easy, but once in a while, it helps to question the intention rather than judge or react on the outcome!

Friday, August 25, 2017

Slow Down...

Slow down....

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In the heavy traffic, to let a fellow on the road take over you.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In the midst of a chaos, to breathe deeply and consciously.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In the mad rush to success, to ask yourself if its really your success that you wish for, or a win over someone or something.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In your busy work calendar, to just smile a greeting to a colleague.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In your craziest of temper, to look the other person in the eye for ten seconds.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit..
In the middle of a complex work assignment, to talk to a friend.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In racing with the clock, to check if its the clock that decides your actions really or yourself.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In a restaurant while being served your meal, to ask if the server has had his meal.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In making decisions, to ask if it affects or effects someone else drastically in some way..

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In a new setup, to give benefit of doubt of goodness.

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In your world, to love and serve..

Once in a while, Slow down a bit...
In your life, to look up to the Universe with Thanks, for little mercies and big blessings!

Friday, June 30, 2017

What is permanent??

Permanent is one word in English Dictionary that probably needs a revision.

The Pink Frock,
The Sapphire stash,
The athlete win,
The mindless chatter,
The aimless walk,
The sinful cream cake,
The perfect figure,
The J-i-T laughter,
The phenomenal performances,
The Jittery and Jinxed firsts,
The rainbow at dawn,
The five-branched palm tree,
The ROFL moments,
The sweet sixteen,
The crazy reading fits,
The laurels,
The quarrels,
The gossips,
The small pain and big gains,
The childhood Innocence,
The God-send moments and people..

All stay as thoughts!!!!

Nothing is permanent physically, but we can keep it all stored in our memory as long as we are sane and our brain cells agree to!!

Happy New Year 2018!

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