Evolution in its base sense translates to Continuous Improvement Process - How we improved from where we were in the age-old past to where we are in the present day.
We all as human beings, community, group, society, country, and the world continuously grow and improve.
Growth is part of being. Continuous improvement is part of us!!
We have evolved (grown and improved) from the state of total innocence in the undated past to the state of information overload today.
One of the ‘like-it-or-not’ aspects of present-day information overload or its glorified synonym ‘exposure’, is the bringing up of a gamut of adjectives into our otherwise calm, simple, and happy minds. The phrases such as ‘successful’ growth, ‘significant’ improvement, and 'remarkable’ achievement are all conceived my man in his own balance scale, benchmarked by a known achievement of another man.
With these adjectives, most people today aim to meet or exceed the mark made by another person in work and home fronts. The improvement aspect somewhere dies and competition sets in.
This is by far the main cause of most problems in the minds of people, both young and old. Where do I stand in comparison with someone? What do I have to do to get to where the other person is?
There are grades, marks in schools that rank the best performing student. Then there comes the collegiate education where again grades and scores matter. Then comes the job scene where ranking plays a role and performance appraisal is everything.
These practices get ingrained into human brains and it forgets that man by nature is meant to:
- Continuously improve upon his own previous records
- Not stress over becoming the best in a lot aspiring or achieving another person’s feat
What does this stress do to us?
We vibrate in stress like a rubber band does when stretched to its maximum. With all the vibrations:
- It creates a multitude of emotions that make the mind believe becoming someone ‘like’ another is the KEY aspect of life.
- It makes the body and mind work towards getting to that level.
- It gives a sense of achievement when we reach a goal, but also makes our mind refuse to accept anything less than the best.
- It also makes us want more, do more, work more, and expect more.. and there is no end to the MORE that we want and continue to want in life.
- It eventually attracts more stress which translates to a dysfunctional body and practically useless mind chords.
- It also creates a community of stretched rubber bands.
Stress brings us to a juncture where we do not know which thought will trigger what emotion in whom and lead to a disastrous mind state where we all are unhappy within, always!! What we understand as ‘happiness’ does not keep us happy - Money, Fame, Name, People, Emotions - Name anything and it does not make us feel thrilled.
Everything seems flawed in a stressed mind.
What to do now?
Improve upon your own Yesterday! is the best therapy we must practice in keeping stress at bay!
That we have improved from our own yesterday’s record gives us joy untold, if we know how not to compare ourselves with our seemingly similar counterpart.
I say seemingly similar because no two people bring the SAME temperament, goals, purposes, experience, character, attitude, beliefs, situations, and values to this world. Similarities between two people is a possibility but never an exact match. If we get this correct, then we will stop comparing ourselves with another person on Earth.
We have to keep up our own improvement targets on. What is yours will find its way to you when it should if you can just do your bit diligently and with the best of intentions!
Essentially, if we are better by 0.1 percent from our yesterday’s records in anything - studies, work, habit, character, practice, sport, attitude, or temper, we are going strong and steady. Going by the meaning of evolution and its truth, we grow and improve!
According to the ancient epics of India, there are three things a man should never wish/aim for:
- Another man’s money
- Another man’s land
- Another man’s lady
I extend them as:
Never wish/aim for:
- Another man’s achievement
- Another man’s reward
- Another man’s success
None of us here needs to be striving for lives led by other people - some comparable and some others incomparable - if we know that we are walking life at our own pace and are here for different purposes. ‘Slow and Steady wins the race’ is a moral from the Kinder Garden story ‘The Hare and the Tortoise!’ - Wonder why we all forgot over the years?!?
Do not be afraid to live your life just ‘like’ yourself!!!
Is this article convincing enough to work towards de-stressing yourself? Do you think you have tried everything in your capability to get yourself out of the stress you are in with no gain?
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You are continuously improving even as you read this post. It is your LIFE and only yours to Live, Love, and Trust!