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Evolution teaches Stress Therapy!

Evolution in its base sense translates to Continuous Improvement Process - How we improved from where we were in the age-old past to where we are in the present day. We all as human beings, community, group, society, country, and the world continuously grow and improve.  Growth is part of being. Continuous improvement is part of us!! We have evolved (grown and improved) from the state of total innocence in the undated past to the state of information overload today. One of the ‘like-it-or-not’ aspects of present-day information overload or its glorified synonym ‘exposure’, is the bringing up of a gamut of adjectives into our otherwise calm, simple, and happy minds. The phrases such as ‘successful’ growth, ‘significant’ improvement, and 'remarkable’ achievement are all conceived my man in his own balance scale, benchmarked by a known achievement of another man.  With these adjectives, most people today aim to meet or exceed the mark made by another person in

Let Go!!!!

Ever been on an escalator? Yes, am sure. On a recent such escalator experience with my children, I realised a hint to the big truth of life , as I would see it. My son held the rails so strong for fear of falling off that he was standing at an angle for a few seconds before I hurriedly got him to loosen his grip on the side rails and straightened his panic mode to a gentle smile! We safely stepped out, and it was such a huge ordeal for me, coming to think of it. Afterthought: Think of life’s timeline as an escalator with side rails. Let’s say each passing moment is a step in the escalator. The timeline keeps moving the Moments in perfect routine and it is always a forward movement. This escalator stops only on your Last working day on Earth! Now, what will happen if we hold on to the side rail and refuse to let go of our grip?? We’ll fall, while the escalator continues to move.  That’s exactly what happens to most of us most times, when we refuse to let go

Is it because we forgot the word 'Contentment'??

There is so much people have to say, about everything under the sun. Why? There is so much people want to know about everything under the sun. Why? There is so much people want to do at all times whether they have the potential or not. Why? There is so much money people want to make and consequently spend too. Why? There is so much fame people are after and struggle to keep up. Why? There is so much of highs as much as lows in one’s mind. Why? Is it normal?? Was the world like this before? I agree about the evolution, intelligence and the need for making more and more of everything, but so also we must be aware that too much of anything is good for nothing! There have been constructive stupendous advancements in science and technology, engineering and medicine, spending power and buying power, earning and investments - No doubt. So also, there is a lot of stress over having all of the best things including the natives and often neglected peace of mind, happiness a

Perfection in Diversity

That's really hard!! This is a random attempt at the thought lines around the subject of how diverse population can make their contribution to a decision in an organization or any focus group for that matter. When we think about any situation or circumstance at work or anywhere for that matter, the decisions will fall into one of the following categories or will be based on one of these categories: Rational : Unbiased and reasonable enough to not cause damage Logical : Has enough parameters to help arrive at a conclusive decision Factual : What you see is all that it is. Cannot be expected to have rational and logical thinking to be the only drivers. There may be external known or unknown parameters that drive these decisions. Decisions have a direct dependency on the Mind which thinks based on: Feeling/Intuition from a Past Experience  Motivation to make the decision Emotional need of the hour - One of these may be the wants - Peace, Success, Importance, A

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder - A Psychiatrist knows better!

A wardrobe full of white clothes - All of them kept sparkling white and neatly pressed! All clothes are clean, devoid of every last bit of dust or stain, folded neatly, and well in place to find them when you need! Clean hands, disinfected from all the bacteria, all day! Everything in the room is symmetrically arranged at all times of the day and rearranged every time a little change happens in the order. The Coffee should,taste this way, be served this way, at this time of the day and have this shade of brown! Everything should be in perfect order and consistency in keeping tidy is an absolute must! Now all these, at the outset are perfectly acceptable practises, habits and interests to have. Aren’t they?? What if I tell you, that these habits and many more like these become rulers of our psychic at times, deteriorating our quality of life, slowly and steadily in a big way!!! In short, they become Obsessions! Each of us may have one or more practises that we absolute

A fresh look at Marriage and Matching!

I was working on Environmental Studies Homework with my six year old daughter. ( Oh yes, it is nice to study some things again with a little student friend as long as it is not Algebra and Geometry, I can confidently say! ) "My Family" was the first lesson. The text read: Tina is six years old. Her father is a doctor. Her mother is a teacher. She has a little brother. She likes to go for a walk with her grandparents. Tina has a pet dog. She loves to play with her dog. Her mother teaches her. Tina helps her father clean the living room on Sunday. The lesson had pictures illustrating the whole scene in the house so the children understand how Tina was related to each of the family members, their roles in her life and how others in the family connect with Tina. Beautifully done, I thought!... The next day, my son brings a book from his Kindergarten class. The Homework for the week was to match the capital letters and the corresponding small letters. The next page had

A Mixer Jar’s story

I am new here today. The family is excited to run the Mixer for the first time. I am the eldest of the three jars. I am taller, my blades are broader but not as sharp and I can hold about 1.5 litres of stuff. I have a handle and a lid and South Indian households typically use me to make vegetable soups, batters of various  kinds for their dosa and many spice blends for their half a dozen varieties of sambhar. I am sparkling clean and have this squeaky shine on me today. I am generally very happy and designed to be useful. Here, the lady opens the lid and puts in about a kilo of some pulse mix in. Closes the lid as quickly and turns the mixer knob to full speed. My blades do the job of the grind and before I can even begin to understand what was the spice mix I just spent time grinding, she puts a spoon inside and ruffles the mix a bit. Another churn and I guess she is happy that the mix came out to her expectation. There seems to be a contented look on her face. Loo

Outstanding Grade - A Quick Counseling

On a conversation with a friend, I got to know that the Class 10 results are out and a common friend’s daughter was upset because she scored just a 95%. Apparently, she expected to top the class and missed it by 2%. Yes, 2% is lot in Indian schools. A hundred people may have scored over-and-above your score.  With three cheers to this obsessive compulsive disorder of worrying about scores ( I have once been there too!, I must confess.. in June 1996). I am writing the following list of thoughts that flash in my mind: Ask the value of a nanosecond to a Olympic runner. What matters is being the winner. The fact that someone ran faster in the race by 30 seconds, is a big ' Lost or Won’ , number!! Between 11:59 P.M and 12:01 A.M is just two minutes on the clock but two different dates, which means a lot when it comes to an admission in an extra-ordinary pre-school that admits kids born on or before 31st July, and your tiny tot was born on 12:01 A.M on 1st August!!! One

Mini Mind Theatre: Movie - Just in time

On a casual conversation today, I mentioned to a friend: "It is like am watching a thriller movie, all scary, and the movie is starring me!!!” Coming to think of it, it's nice to imagine ourselves sitting alone in a movie theatre, munching popcorn or chips and watching our own situations being screened as a movie. I think it may be interesting in many ways: There is no prior review of the movie that you can read, as it is your life and running live. You are the only spectator. There is no need to get stressed, as it is just a movie and you are free to emote based on the story, and still be assured it is not happening in the ‘Now’. You can clearly see the responses and reactions of the actors in the story because you are sitting in the audience side and can understand what is working well and what does not. You can be your own critic. The movie will not fetch money, so in essence it is just done as an expressive artwork just for your eyes. The movie does n