Just for a change…

It is important to change things, pattern, order, mood, routine, clothes, food… Monotone can hit us in a very, very subtle way. Multiple subtle hits can cause a ridge of damage to our lives and the surrounding lives.

If you have 

• been in the same place for a long time
• worn the same/similar colored clothes
• have met the same people for years now
• have kept things exactly at the same place every single day over the last few years
• been to the same places regularly
• been following the same TV programme
• been doing the same exercise in the same order for the same number of minutes every day
• been eating the same items in your breakfast, lunch, snack and dinner times
• been sleeping and waking up on time, no matter how busy the rest of the household/community is on an occasion
• been reading the same author
• been walking/riding/driving on the same road to and from somewhere
• then you are on the way to what I call ‘Monotone distress’

Always, everyone cannot get a change in all these actions/things/people/places for multiple reasons, the most important one being, ‘discomfort’ that any change can cause to us. So given it is hard to get uncomfortable for most of us, especially when we do not see the need to, we must know that this choice of living in a routine lifestyle impacts the surrounding people monstrously and it slumps our mood in the subconscious level to an all-time low!

How does it affect us?

• Constant irritation about things, people, and news around you.
• Feeling that everything that is being spoken has something to do with you.
• Seeing the negative all the time in any sentence.
• Unable to joke or laugh at all.
• Feeling cornered and helpless.
• Obsessed with doing something in the same way.
• Feeling that there is nothing left to be happy about.
• Disinterested in anything that does not concern your well being.
• Feeling that everyone is targeting you.
• Feeling that people should drop everything and attend to your silently screaming and openly cranky mind.

Monotone Distress is what this sums up to! And this is definitely a high priority correction that you need to make in your life. Earlier, the better for you and those in your everyday world!

Why? How does it affect others?

• Your irritation gets to them and develops a distaste for your company.
• Your negativity affects them.
• Your low mood pulls down the entire household.
• They see your unexpressed need for attention as withdrawal or not taking part; hence you are in silos even when you are among people.
• They will see your inability to take a joke as you being a spoilsport.

Monotone distress is also a reason for all of these although there may be many other reasons causing these problems.

Life gets boring because sometimes it is easy to tire ourselves out with our responsibility, feelings, emotions, commitments, people, work, health, money, food, logistics, we all reach a point when we are not interested in anything beyond just peaceful sleep. If you double-check your day’s and life’s choices, you will see one or more monotone distress factors. 

Believe me, a little change helps in a big way. 

For instance, you could

• Eat fruits for breakfast one morning if you always used to eat cornflakes. 
• Pick a different route to work one day. 
• Wake up at 7 am instead of 10 am one day and see how it works or doesn’t work for you.
• Listen to a different genre of music instead of the usual. 
• Buy a new outfit in a color that rarely lives in your wardrobe. 
• Go to a park and strike a conversation with someone sitting next to you. 
• Invite neighbor home for a coffee one Saturday evening. 
• Take part in social events just to see new faces and add color to your routine days. 
• Add a different spice to the same Dal that you are cooking. 
• Visit an old friend or call a friend whose voice is a welcome change from all the calls you receive from people in your day-to-day life.

Try to make a subtle change here and there and I promise you will thank yourself for the change you did :)

Why should you make some changes?

The Universe is full of different and changing parameters. Every constant that teams up with a variable in an equation, makes a significant value. That’s true of the Math and Physics which make up all the conclusive theories of Universal Science.

You and I have different looks, thoughts, and lives.  

Evolution is about change. 

Civilization is about Change. 

With all the changes, variables and differences, we live in an evolving universe… if we accept this truth and give in to some subtle, doable, changes in our day-to-day lives, I guess we will see more beauty in our world and suddenly life will seem interesting. 

So, let’s not forget to keep changing things we can, to be the different person we wish to see in ourselves. 

If we cannot change many things about us and around us, we could do the same things differently.

If you said a silent 'yes' to all of these and still find it hard to make the change or save yourself from the scars of Monotone distress, you can surely find help online with some of the experienced psychologists who help tone people's minds to betterment.